Immigrants in Indiana - Mexico: Culture

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Greetings

Mexicans exchange greetings in just about every situation even strangers passing on the street are greeted with a nod, smile and toss a genial Buenos Dias (Good morning), Buenas Tardes (Good afternoon), or Buenas Noches (Good evening/night). *  A firm handshake with eye contact and a smile is the appropriate greeting in most situations. In more casual settings, people may simply give one another a nod of the head. Once people become acquainted, greetings become a lot warmer and Mexicans often prefer to embrace (abrazo). This involves a loose embrace accompanied with a kiss on the right cheek. Although in in many towns in the state of Oaxaca, the expected greeting is a loose handshake, never a kiss or embrace.  A casual greeting is Hola (Hello), ¿Qué tal? (What’s up?) or¿Cómo estás? (How are you?).

It is not considered rude for people to briefly interrupt a conversation in order to greet somebody who has just arrived or who is passing by. It is generally polite to show personal interest in the person you are greeting, such as enquiring about their family and health.

A formal greetings are considered signs of respect and goodwill.  Mexicans show elders and community leaders an abundance of respect, and extend courtesies to both women and children. The formal title used to greet people is ‘Señor’ (Mr) for men and ‘Señora’ (Ms) for women. This is followed by one’s surname.  Elders may be addressed as ‘Don (Sir) or Doña (Ma’am) followed by their first name to show more respect.  

Among friends and family, Mexicans often use nicknames to refer to one another. Commonly, Mexicans will create nicknames based on an easily noticeable personal characteristic or as a shorter form of one’s first name. For example, one’s nickname might be ‘el gordito’ (‘the fat one’) or ‘Pato’ (a shorter form of Patricio).

* Pronunciation: SpanishDict.com

Religion

Most of the population practices Catholicism with some incorporating pre-Hispanic Mayan traditions. Other Christian denominations include Methodist, Lutheran, Presbyterian, Jehovah’s Witness, Baptist, Mormons, and Anglican. There also are small numbers of Muslims, Buddhists, and Jews.

 

In general, the family and the Roman Catholic Church are the cornerstones of all major life events

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Parties

Mexicans traditionally hold parties on their children’s birthdays and give them many gifts. The celebrations include visiting the church, getting blessings from the priest, and partying with family, friends of the children, and close relatives. The main attraction of Mexican birthday parties for 300 years has been the piñata, a large, colorfully decorated papier mache container usually shaped like an animal and filled with candies, toys, and/or coins. The hosts typically hang the piñata on a rope from the ceiling, while the blindfolded children take turns trying to smash it open with a stick so the goodies can spill out.

Things Foreigners Should Never Say

  • Never criticize the Virgin of Guadalupe or say anything about her that could be perceived as a slight (see ‘Catholicism in Mexico’ under Religion).
  • Do not stereotype Mexicans as ‘narcotraficantes’ (drug traffickers) or heavy drug consumers. Only a very small percentage of the population is engaged in such activity. Furthermore, consider that the current violence of cartels is driven by the Western consumption of drugs. Meanwhile, the Mexican consumption of illicit drugs is lower than US levels.1
  • Do not emphasize Mexico’s problems or seek to make people feel ashamed of them. Most Mexicans are disgusted by violence and want to redeem the reputation of Mexico in foreigners’ eyes. They do not need further judgement from outsiders – especially when this criticism is informed by stereotypes.
  • Do not criticize another person in public, or in earshot of others. Deliver all sensitive news privately to avoid embarrassing others.
  • Avoid referring to the United States as “America”. Mexico is also a North American country and some people can find it frustrating when the term is used solely to refer to those from the USA. Therefore, Mexicans may call Americans ‘estadounidenses’ (refer to people and things from the United States) instead of ‘americano’ (refers to the continents as a whole) in Spanish.
  • Do not imply that Mexicans are overcrowding the US or flooding the US border with undocumented immigration. In reality, the numbers of Mexican migration has been steadily declining.2
  • Do not imply that Mexicans are lazy. The population works more hours on average than any other nation.3

1 U.S. Department of State, 2016

2 Pew Research Centre, 2015

3 OECD (The Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development), 2018

 

Mexico, Western Oaxaca, Mixtec, 15th–16th century
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Hispanic, Latin, and Latinx: What is the difference?

“Hispanic” refers to any of the peoples in the Americas and Spain who speak Spanish or are descended from Spanish-speaking communities. The term Hispanic was officially created by the U.S. government in the1970s to offer a pan-ethnic name for people such as Puerto Ricans, Mexican Americans, Cuban Americans, and others. The term was added to Census questionnaires in 1980.

"Latino" or the feminine “Latina,” is used to describe people with ancestry from Latin American countries. The term does not imply the country of origin is Spanish speaking, so it is thought to include people from Portuguese-speaking Brazil and French-speaking Haiti, but excludes Spain. Latino was officially added to the U.S. Census in 1997.

"Latinx" is a non-binary form of Latino or Latina. The suffix “-x” replaces the “-o” or “-a” corresponding to masculine or feminine, allowing the word to resist the gender binary. In Spanish-speaking countries, the term Latine with the suffix “-e” is circulating as an alternative to the masculine Latino or the feminine Latina.  “Latinx” is thought to have been coined in 2004.

Music

Music

Mexican folk songs are very popular. There are many genres of traditional music, such as banda, norteño and ranchera, which each have their own styles. For example, ‘corridos’ are poetic songs that recount stories of poverty, politics and crime (e.g. narcocorridos tell tales of drug cartel kingpins).

Food

Food and Etiquette

It is still common for adult males to go back to their mother’s house at mealtime so she can feed him lunch or dinner.

Etiquette

Basic Etiquette 
  • Be respectful and courteous, especially when in the company of parents or elders.
  • People are expected to pay 10-15% as a tip after a service has been performed.
  • It is polite to say “Salud” when someone sneezes. This literally translates as “health” but means the equivalent of “bless you”.
  • If you cannot avoid momentarily interrupting a conversation, it is polite to say, “Con permiso” (Excuse me) before speaking up.
  • Men commonly open doors and offer seats for women.
  • Men are typically expected to pay for all meals when out dining, even if a female was the one to initially extend the invitation.
  • Always take the time to say goodbye to someone properly before leaving. A hasty exit can imply that you did not enjoy their company.
  • Show heightened respect to those that are noticeably older than yourself. Give way to them in public, and allow them to be served first or take your seat if all are full.
  • Do not toss someone an object to pass it to them. Hand it to them directly and respectfully.
  • Mexicans are often very welcoming to friends of friends on the basis of small social connections. They will appreciate it if you are similarly open-hearted to their loved ones.
  • Refer to Mexican migrants living in the US without paperwork as “undocumented migrants”. Avoid using the term “illegal”.
  • Have an understanding of Mexico's cultural achievements and mention them when you see fit.
Visiting
  • Good friends may visit one another without giving prior notice. In other circumstances, an invitation is generally expected.
  • If invited to a social function in Mexico, you are often welcome to bring friends or family unless the host has specifically made clear that it is a closed event. 
  • The point of one’s visit is generally to converse and socialize. 
  • It is not essential to bring things when visiting Mexicans. People are generally more interested in your company and conversation than what gifts you bring. However, it is common for female guests to bring a salad or dessert to a dinner while male guests usually bring alcohol.
  • Mexicans have a reputation for being hospitable. They generally wish for their guests to sit back and relax whilst they accommodate for the visit. However, it is polite to ask to assist the host to cook and clean up.
  • It is considered very impolite to refuse refreshments outright. If you are offered something by your host, you can politely decline the offer by saying “ahorita” (literally translating as “right now”). This means ‘not right now, but maybe later’ and is a far more polite way to refuse an item. 
  • Share stories from your country, home and family life. Mexicans love tales from other parts of the world. 
  • Do not leave directly after a meal has been served. It is expected that guests will stay to converse for a while after.
  • Be sure to thank Mexicans for their hospitality. It is the only gesture expected in return for their generosity.
  • Make sure you say a thorough goodbye before leaving someone’s house. Everyone usually embraces before departing. Sometimes goodbyes can be quite prolonged from the time that someone actually announces his or her departure.
  • It is important to call or text your Mexican counterpart when you get home to let them know that you arrived safely. You can expect them to send a message asking if you are okay if you forget.
Eating
  • COMPLIMENT YOUR MEAL - Use every opportunity to compliment Mexican food, whether you like it or not. Mexicans are extremely proud of their cuisine and find it very endearing when foreigners show a similar appreciation.
  • SPICY FOOD - If you do not have a good tolerance for spicy (picante) food, tell your Mexican counterpart. Many meals are made up of multiple components that have varying degrees of chili in them. Most Mexicans will be understanding and direct you on which salsas to avoid. Corn chips or tortillas are usually served with spicy dishes to relieve the sensation.
  • MEALS - Lunch (comida) is the main meal of the day in Mexico. It is eaten in the afternoon. Dinner (cena) is smaller meal. Some children may have a light snack at night – known as ‘merienda’.
  • STREET FOOD - If eating street food, one usually consumes what they have bought in front of the stand where it was purchased.
  • AT THE TABLE - If seated at a table, keep both hands visible above the tabletop.
  • UTENSILS AND HANDS - Mexicans may eat certain traditional foods with their hands instead of utensils. For example, it is common to use tortillas to scoop food.
  • TRADITIONAL TORTILLA WRAPS - Western Mexican food often uses hard-shell tacos. However, this is generally not traditional in Mexico unless eating ‘fried tacos’ in which the tortilla wrap is deep-fried until it’s hard.
  • IF YOU ARE A VEGETARIAN -Very few Mexicans are vegetarians. Therefore, you will need to be explicit if you have dietary requirements.
  • TIME TO SOCIALIZE - Expect meals to last quite a long time, especially if there are multiple dishes and servings. Mexicans prefer to socialize over meals, and do not like to be rushed when eating.
  • WHEN LEAVING THE TABLE - Ask to be excused before leaving a table momentarily.
  • ALCOHOL - It is common for alcohol to be served with dinner when guests are present.
  • ALCOHOLIC DRINKS - The most popular alcoholic drink is beer. Many Mexicans also like a famous Mexican spirit known as ‘mezcal’. This is a spirit that is served in a shot glass and sipped slowly. Mexicans often have a beer at the same time and sip one after the other intermittently.
  • TOASTS - People toast their drinks by yelling “Salud!” (Health).
  • OPPOSITE GENDER INVITES - If someone of the opposite gender invites you to dinner in Mexico, it is usually interpreted as a potentially romantic gesture. Ask for your friends, associates or partner to join the meal in order to reduce the chances of a misunderstanding.
Gifts
  • HOLIDAYS/SPECIAL EVENTS - Gifts are often given on special occasions, such as birthdays, Christmas and Mother’s or Father’s Day. They may also be given to expectant mothers.
  • QUINCEANERA - A girl’s 15th birthday is a pivotal occasion called ‘quinceañera’. It is expected that she receive very grand gifts.
  • SERENADE - In some areas of rural Mexico, people may serenade each other to show their love and gratitude.
  • OPENING GIFTS - Gifts are usually opened upon receiving them and are enthusiastically praised in front of the person who presented them.
  • FLOWERS - If giving someone flowers, avoid buying marigolds as they symbolize death. Red flowers can also have negative connotations. Some believe they cast spells. However, white flowers have positive connotations and are thought to lift spells.
  • GRATITUDE - You may give gifts out of gratitude (for example, to a host, business partner or a secretary). However, if the person is of the opposite gender, it is best to say that the gift is from your husband/wife to avoid it being interpreted as a romantic gesture

​​​​​​Information from Cultural Atlas.

Superstition

Superstitions

Daily Practices
  • To avoid bad luck, never sleep with your back to the bedroom door.
  • Start your day by putting you right foot on the floor first when getting out of bed.
  • Eat the burnt part of a tortilla for good luck.
  • Refusing food or drink when visiting, will bring bad luck to the host's home.
  • Never place your purse on the floor. Placing your bag on the floor will cause you to lose money.
  • Itchy palms mean money is in your future. If your palm itches don’t scratch it or try to relieve it by rubbing it on anything or you will drive money away.
  • Put a broom upside down behind a door to ward off unwanted visitors and energy. 
  • Don't sweep a single woman's feet. If you sweep her feet she'll never ever get married.
  • Don't buy family or friends knives or scissors as a gift. This means that the relationship will be broken. 
  • For store owners - Keep a pot of fresh basil to attract good or generous customers, and a pot of fresh sage to repel angry customers and Brujas (witches).
Salt

Salt over the shoulder- To bring good luck into the home, dissolve salt into a bucket of water and mop the floors from the doorway to the back of the house.

- To rid a home of bad luck or evil spirits, pour salt on the floor by the back door, then proceed to sweep the salt throughout the home and then out the front door.

- Businesses: Salt sprinkled at the door will increase income and the success of the business.

Expectant Mothers

Expectant mothers do not attend funerals, visit cemeteries, or associate with any death-related events. In case of pregnancy during a lunar eclipse, Mexican women wear clothes ornamented with safety pins around their stomach or tie a red ribbon with keys around their waist, in the belief that this will prevent any physical deformation of the fetus.

 

The Evil Eye

Mexicans strongly believe in the effects of the mal de ojo (evil eye). They believe that the mal de ojo can inflict illness, calamity, misfortune, and even death. To ensure that strangers (with supposedly with “strong evil vision”) who admire the baby, must touch the head to indicate that they do not harbor envy or cast mal de ojo. Mexican families also give babies an amulet bracelet or a “sweeping” with a raw chicken egg or a bunch of basil on the body to avert evil influences and provide protection. They may also tie medidas, or blessed ribbons, on a child to prevent disease.

 

New Year
  • Eating 12 Grapes - Before the clock strikes 12, it’s traditional to eat 12 grapes which represent 12 wishes and 12 months of the year. when the countdown begins. If the grapes can be eaten in under 60 seconds, the 12 wishes will come true in the new year.
  • Leaving Lentils Outside - On the last night of the year a bag of lentils are left outside the front door, or a soup made out of lentils are consumed. Lentils are associated with bringing good fortune.
  • Colorful Underwear  - Wearing red underwear is believed to attract love, yellow underwear will bring you money, and white underwear will bring peace.  If the colored underwear are not in your wardrobe, lighting candles of those colors are believed to give the same benefits. 
  • Sweeping - Another tradition that is believed to bring good fortune is sweep towards the outside of a home, even out through a door or gate, to drive away the negative vibes and experiences of the previous year. Some people also throw coins on the ground outside and sweep them into the house to ensure financial success.
  • Take the Luggage for a Walk - If there is a desire to travel in the new year, taking the luggage for a walk around the block is believed to make that wish come true.